Marriage,the traditional or old-fashioned kind,is becoming obsolete or outdated. It is a tricky game, the same old game. One spouse wants to own and control the other, but refuses to be owned and controlled. One spouse imposes restrictions on the freedom of the other, while refuses to give up his or her own freedom.
It is fundamentally wrong to believe that you can own another human being, or be owned. The primitive master-and-slave relationship should no longer be allowed in a modern free society.
Marriage should be changed from "ownership" or "possession" into something like a "leasehold tenure". It should expire annually, on the anniversary of the wedding date or marriage registration date. The couple must agree to renew it for another year, otherwise it automatically expires.
Marriage without Love doesn't work. Love without marriage does. The answer is not about being married or single. The answer is LOVE !
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Thanks for your thoughts on this, Edi. I like some of your ideas, although I disagree with others.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe that all marriages, or even the majority consist of one spouse wanting to own and control the other. In fact, one of the things I value most about my own marriage is the balance we have, doing things together, but also having lots of separate interests and activities. Marriage or no marriage, a relationship of any kind will always create some restrictions -- that is not necessarily about control, but consideration. My children also place major restrictions on what I can and cannot do (moreso than my husbnad!), but they aren't trying to control me. It's just the nature of being in a relationship where someone else's needs and interests must be considered.
As for the "leasehold tenure" idea, if two people want to enter into a relationship at which they can leave at any time, doesn't it make more sense for them to be able to be done at ANY time, and not just on the anniversary date? :) I do like the idea, though, of a specified time to consider a relationship, look at each other and say, "Yes, we still want to do this thing." That's pretty powerful.
It's been an interesting discussion!! Thanks for being part of it. :)
I was not the only one who expressed this opinion regarding marriage. In September 2007, German politician Grabriele Pauli suggested that marriage should expire after 7 years, at which time couples could then extend or dissolve the marriage.Her suggestion shocked the Catholic State of Bavaria.By now, the number of Catholics in Bavaria has decreased from about 70% to 50%. By the way, I am an ex-Catholic. Shouldn't my suggestion of a 1-year term of marriage be more shocking than a 7-year term suggested by Grabriele Pauli ?
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